Now that school has been in session for over a month, students have long established routines, and are into the meat of the curriculum, social opportunities, and after school activities. With all that is going on in your child’s day, do you ever find it amazing that you receive a one word answer to your daily question of “How was your day?” Often times, and I fall into this routine with my own 8th and 5th grade daughters, that asking “How was your day?” becomes so automatic, and even robotic, that it warrants an equally automatic or robotic reply as “good, fine, ok, bad, meh” etc.
Of course, this isn’t limited to my own children. When walking the hallways, visiting classrooms, or when students visit my office, I often fall into the same routine of only asking how their day is going. This closed question doesn’t help foster a conversation, and it certainly doesn’t help build those important relationships.
So what can we do about it? I have been reading a few different articles on this and found some different ways to ask the exact same question, but in a more interesting and detail mining way. When asking your kiddo how there day was, try these instead:
What’s the coolest thing that happened today?
What made you laugh today?
What was the most creative thing you did?
How were you kind or helpful today?
Was anyone kind or helpful to you?
If you were the teacher, how would you describe the day?